Chris Perrella

My Master Key Experience

March 11, 2016
by Chris Perrella
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Keep Digging In – Week 22a MKMMA

These past couple of weeks have been kind of challenging for me. I’ve been thinking a lot about where I’m at and I seem to be stuck.

I had just finished getting the kids ready for bed, my son had fallen asleep shortly after I finished reading to him, and my daughter would not fall asleep so I sat her down in the family room to watch one of her favourite shows while I prepared my meals last night for work today.

Then it hit me and boy did it hurt. I keep looking ahead too far. I have been thinking about things that I want to happen in the distant future so much so that I’m missing everything in the present. I feel like there’s so much that I want to do that I’m spreading myself out and not able to commit to anything 100%. It was a good thing that I kind of had that moment to make that discovery, because it helped me realize that I do need to look at how I’m doing things and really ‘live each day as if it is my last.’ Coincidentally my wife came home at about the same time which was another good thing. She had just come back from a parent council meeting for our son’s school. She had just volunteered this past year and she’s been able to put into action some great fundraising events with the council and everything went incredibly well for her that evening. I mentioned to her how amazed I am at how she was able to do the research she needed to do and get things accomplished. We talked for a bit, it felt good. She reminded me of some things that I’ve not been doing as often as I should. Celebrate my accomplishments. Live in the present and enjoy. She also reminded me of some of the things that I need to work on. One of the biggest things is to see something through to the end.

Mark had mentioned in the week 22a video that we need to take an honest look and ask have we been doing the work, take a look over what we’ve been doing and really dig in to solidify new habits over the remaining weeks of the course.

I really have to dig in, I feel like I’m falling apart. I honestly thought it would be easier near the end of the course, it’s actually been quite the opposite for me.

Good thing is I’ve figured out a few things that have been keeping me from moving forward.

I know in my last post I had said that I have been enjoying life a lot more, and that I tend to focus on the more serious stuff when it comes to posting something on my blog. Well here are some of things that I have had fun with this week, despite the challenges I’ve been having.

I had a pillow fight with my son and daughter Sunday night before bath time.

I made it home on time Tuesday morning to walk my son to the school bus stop, he couldn’t contain his excitement.

I held my daughter in my arms and sang and danced with her as she laughed uncontrollably.

My son was having a meltdown moment Tuesday night, I was able to calmly change his mood around to laughter and happiness.

I took my son out on Wednesday to purchase a toy that he had wanted with the gift cards he had received as a birthday gift.

I was able to spend time with both kids Wednesday night while my wife was out.

I had a heartfelt discussion with my wife Wednesday night. Something that I haven’t done with her in a while. Words cannot describe the love I feel for her.

I may have a few more late nights coming up and some rough days ahead, but it’s a small price to pay.

I’ll end this post with a passage from The Greatest Salesman in the World, something that I am doing and want to continue doing:

If I feel depressed I will sing.

If I feel sad I will laugh.

If I feel ill I will double my labour.

If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.

If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.

If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.

If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.

If I feel incompetent I will remember past success.

If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.

Today I will be master of my emotions.

March 4, 2016
by Chris Perrella
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Remember to Have Fun! – Week 22 MKMMA

Being able to create your own destiny and leave nothing to chance? Some people may say that’s a pretty boring life. I beg to differ. Can you imagine a life where the things you had always hoped to achieve could be done by design and with excitement? I am.

Now, there is work involved in getting to this point but like the great basketball coach John Wooden shares, “you’ll find most of it is practice, the rest of it is work.”

Since day one of the MKMMA course we’ve been shown how the brain and body works, and I’m still learning but I find more and more every day I focus less on the things I cannot control and more on the things I can.

What do I mean, you may ask? Well I focus on what I want more in life, not what I want less in life.

Haanel states in Part 22 of the Master Key:

“…thoughts are spiritual seeds, which, when planted in the subconscious mind, have a tendency to sprout and grow, but unfortunately the fruit is not to our liking.”

Funny thing is the MKMMA course has kept me in constant thought, but the one major thing I have forgotten to do is have fun with it. I’ve been looking at some of my recent posts and holy crap, as much as this course has been challenging, if I’m not smiling, what’s the point?

The truth is I’ve been enjoying life a lot more, but when it comes to writing something down I seem to focus on the serious stuff.

Let’s try something a little more light-hearted and start with Sunday. In Sundays MKMMA webinar we were given a new challenge… to sit in silence. No electronics, little or no interaction with people, nothing, except our reading material from the course.

Funny thing is when that was mentioned in the webinar I was on the way to my parents house with my wife and kids, I thought to myself uh oh… I did this slight shrug with my shoulders and my head turned slightly to the left as my right eye squinted slightly hoping Cathy didn’t hear that part but also bracing for possible impact. Incredibly nothing was said at that point and I was able to listen to the rest of the webinar safely and finished listening to the rest of it while at my parents house. On our way home from my parents place that night I don’t remember how the conversation came up about the silence thing, but it did and I do remember two things Cathy mentioned. The first was, “when did you want to do this, and for how long?” and the second I think was, “we’ll work around it.”  I was in a little bit of shock, I thought to myself, “that went a lot better than what I thought it would, wow, WOW.”

I am happy that that had gone over the way that it did and although we have not picked a date or dates yet, I am very thankful that Cathy is being very accommodating. I am very grateful that she has been very understanding through the whole process.

Now did I also mention that I joined an MLM business the following evening? Uh huh, my wife knows about that one too, but she’s actually excited for me about that one. Was my enroller listening with me to the webinar on Sunday? No… did I tell her about the silence thing that evening? Not really, and what I mean by not really is no. I wonder how that conversation is going to go over… “Yes! I really am excited to get started, however I’m going to be gone for a few days… not sure exactly when… haven’t really planned that out yet… what’s that? Stay connected while I’m gone? Um… no, not really… it’s a silence thing, I’m kind of supposed to disconnect from everything…”

Nice thing is I’m still remaining positive about it, I’ll figure something out. I just have to remember to have fun with it, otherwise, what’s the point, right?

February 26, 2016
by Chris Perrella
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Breakdown Part II – Master Key Week 21

I n last week’s post I talked about breaking down. I looked at a passage from Part 20 of Haanel’s Master Key.

“To become inspired means to get out of the beaten path, out of the rut, because extraordinary results require extraordinary means. When we come into the recognition of the Unity of all things and that the source of all power is within, we tap the source of inspiration.”

Upon reading this quote again this week I can say that I believe that one of my tires have blown, veering me off the beaten path I have been on. Let me explain.

I have been struggling with my weight for years because of a health issue I had for quite some time and although I am healthy now I have not been able to gain weight… yes you read correctly, I said gain weight. One of my True Health goals is to be fit at 150lbs, healthy and full of energy. The first date I had set to achieve this goal was December 30th 2015, I missed the mark. I was a little disappointed but when I re-read this part of my DMP I knew I wasn’t 100% committed to achieving it. So I decided to keep my promise to myself this time. I revised my SMART goals. I decided to commit a workout program, P90X3, for six days a week for 90 days. I decided to increase my food intake from three to five times a day. And I set a new date to achieve this which was February 22nd, 2016.

Approximately five weeks ago I set this new goal. Every time I looked at a red circle, I would repeat, “fit at 150lbs, healthy and full of energy before February 22nd, 2016, I read it in my DMP, I visualised it in my mind as well, and most of all I applied my plan of action. Well, when February 22nd came around I almost forgot about the date I had set for my goal, and when I remembered I was a little reluctant to stand on the scale, but I did, and I was surprised! One hundred and fifty pounds! Not only that, I also feel fit and full of energy, I did it and I’m only five weeks into the program.

This accomplishment has set in motion within me a belief, in myself that with clearly defined goals repeated, visualised, thought upon, listened to, read constantly, charged with feelings and linking, I can achieve anything I put my mind to, keeping in mind that it has to be in harmony with the fundamental laws of nature. My conscious mind takes these thoughts and allows them to penetrate my subconscious mind which goes to work on anything presented to it, manifesting it into something tangible.

All the assignments and exercises that we’ve been asked to do for the MKMMA course, the countless times being asked to “trust the process”, are helping me understand how my mind operates and how to use it effectively.

In Part 21 of the Master Key Haanel explains the importance of thinking big thoughts:

7. This is one of the secrets of success,one of the methods of organizing victory, one of the accomplishments of the Master-Mind. He thinks big thoughts. The creative energies of the mind find no more difficulty in handling large situations, than small ones. Mind is just as much present in the Infinitely large as in the Infinitely small.

8. When we realize these facts concerning mind we understand how we may bring ourselves any condition by creating the corresponding conditions in our consciousness, because anyhting which is held for any length of time in the consciousness, eventuaully becomes impressed upon the subconscious and thus becomes a pattern which the creative energy will wave into the life and environment of the individual.

I am putting this same effort into the rest of my goals like I put towards one of my True Health goals. I know I will see the results I have been asking for. Like I had mentioned earlier I am understanding more how my mind operates and how to use it effectively. And although things are now starting to come together at a much faster pace, this old train of mine is breaking down, so I can take a walk around, and see what there is to see…

February 20, 2016
by Chris Perrella
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Breakdown – Master Key Week 20

There are several definitions for the word breakdown. The definition which best helps me describe the process I am going through is this one:

A failure of a relationship or system.

Some of the synonyms used to describe a breakdown are:

Failure, collapse, disintegration, nervous breakdown.

Now most people, when they hear the word breakdown usually associate the word with a negative event.

And some people may think when they first start reading this that I may be on the verge of a “nervous breakdown”, I’d like to let you know that I am far from it.

But I am going through a breakdown and I do welcome the process. You may be a little confused, let me explain.

I have up to this point in my life been behaving a certain way. These behaviours have created habits which govern my life. It’s not just me, everyone has habits, it’s kind of how our brain works. How we’re able to function on a daily basis.

I’ll ask you to think of a habit you have and ask yourself why you have this habit? Where did it originate from? What behaviours did you perform repeatedly to acquire this habit? Is this habit one that is advantageous to have, meaning does this habit help you progress at whatever it is that you want or do on a daily basis, or does it hinder your efforts? If it does hinder your efforts are you aware of this? And if you are aware of this what are you doing to stop that habit? Do you want to stop that habit?

I am going through a process right now. The behaviours of my past have created habits in my life. Habits that up until this point have served me well. But they are not working for me anymore. Since September 27th of last year I have been creating new behaviors, repeatedly to create new habits. But as much as I want to move forward I still cling (just barely though) to the habits of my past, and I am growing tired of this. I welcome a breakdown because what it means to me is the failure, collapse, or disintegration of my old habits. The failure of the relationship I had with my mind, the failure of the old system or blueprint I have been operating from. I am beginning to see the world for what it really is, and all the incredible opportunities it has to offer.

This total “breakdown” of my old habits means that the new behaviours that I have been doing consistently since day one of the MKMMA course are creating new habits, replacing the old ones, permanently. This is the only way an old habit or habits can be replaced.

Haanel states something in Part 20 of the Master Keys which I thought relates to what I am going through:

“To become inspired means to get out of the beaten path, out of the rut, because extraordinary results require extraordinary means. When we come into the recognition of the Unity of all things and that the source of all power is within, we tap the source of inspiration.”

So I bid my old habits farewell and give gratitude for where they have brought me, and I welcome the new habits I have and continue to create for I know what they bring to me.

There’s a song that’s been playing in my head for the past few weeks, which kind of relates to what I’m going through.

“I hope this old train brakes down, then I could take a walk around, and see what there is to see…”

Enjoy. It’s one of my favorites.

 

February 12, 2016
by Chris Perrella
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Focus – Master Key Week 19

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I wanted to talk about focus today and the impact it’s had on me. Let’s start with the definition of focus: 1. the center of interest or activity, 2. the state or quality of having or producing clear visual definition.

In the Master Key Mastermind Alliance course pretty much from day one we’ve all been asked to focus. Focus on what it is that we want, focus on the good that happens all around, focus on our SMART goals, focus on our Definite Major Purpose. As we get closer to the end of this course I find that my focus isn’t always 100%, sometimes it’s not even 50%. And there’s the problem for me. If I am unable to focus, how can I do my best, how can I be of great service to others if I can’t focus?

Two events this past week got me thinking about this. The first event was after watching the documentary, I Am; the second event was a conversation I had with my wife.

The first event:

The documentary I watched was for one of the assignments for the course. The documentary is about one of Hollywood’s all-time leading comedy directors, Tom Shadyac. This documentary was incredible; I recommend that you give it a watch. Tom was very successful in the movie industry and very wealthy. He had everything, expensive cars, several properties, and a private jet to name a few. But he began to question all that he had achieved and acquired, and after a major cycling accident where he sustained a severe concussion known as post-concussion syndrome, a condition where the symptoms of the original concussion don’t go away, he found himself at a crossroad. He had tried every sort of therapy to get his health back, nothing was working. His symptoms were so severe that he welcomed death as a release. Funny thing was that when he contemplated death as a way out, that’s when things started to change for him, they started to get better. In a way he did die, he had accepted that everything he had done up to the point of his accident, his prior life of excess greed had to change, he decided to let go of his past and embark on a journey, it was through this journey that his condition began to recede.

Meeting with many remarkable men and women his quest was to find out what’s wrong with our world, and what can we do to make it better.

“I didn’t want to hear the usual answers, like war, hunger, poverty, the environmental crisis, or even greed,” he explains.  “These are not the problems, they are the symptoms of a larger endemic problem.  In I AM, I wanted to talk about the root cause of the ills of the world, because if there is a common cause, and we can talk about it, air it out in a public forum, then we have a chance to solve it.”

His discoveries along the way are fascinating and through his journey he begins to see that there is more good in our world than he ever imagined and at the end of the documentary he finds himself asking, what’s right with our world?

The second event:

The conversation that I had with my wife was regarding my thoughts on my progress through this course. I am doing alright but I find it challenging to keep up with several things. I sometimes feel that I am unable to balance everything, and I could do a lot better with my organizational skills. Thinking about this while preparing lunch with my wife she noticed the look on my face and new that something was up. She had asked if everything was alright, and I began to express my concerns. When I was done speaking my wife began to point out all the positive things that we do on a daily basis, including everything that we had accomplished that day.

So let’s get back to the word focus.

Tom had begun his journey with his focus on all that was wrong in our world. It was only until he had started asking questions and doing research that he was able to change his focus and see all that is right in our world.

I was focusing on all the negative parts of my progress, and it was only until I had the discussion with my wife that I was able to change my focus to see again all the things I’m doing right.

At that point before the discussion with my wife I was concerned about my focus, or lack of it. But I now realize that that is not the case.

My ability to focus is incredible, I just have to continually remind myself to focus on the positive things.

As I thought about this I remember paragraphs 27 and 28 in Haanel’s MasterKey – Part Nineteen:

  1. For your exercise this week, concentrate, and when I use the word concentbigstockphoto_man_meditation_12036691rate,I mean all that the word implies; become so absorbed in the object of your thought that you are conscious of nothing else, and do this a few minutes every day. You take the necessary time to eat in order that the body may be nourished, why not take the time to assimilate your mental food?
  1. Let the thought rest on the fact that appearances are deceptive. The earth is not flat, neither is it stationary; the sky is not a dome, the sun does not move, the stars are not small specks of light, and matter which was once supposed to be fixed has been found to be in a state of perpetual flux.

I shift my focus to see all that I am doing right.